So I've been getting drunk phone calls from this girl that I'm friends with. She seems to call like once a week - but only when she's drinking.
Don't get me wrong, she'll sometimes call to invite me out with some of our mutual friends every now and then, but I usually get the most calls from her when she's been drinking.
Should I read into this? Does this mean she likes me more than a friend if she's calling when she's drunk?
If so, I don't know really how to go about this. I'm not sure that I have feelings for her, but I think I could if I started to give it a little thought. She's a great girl and I don't mind the phone calls, but I just don't know what to make of it.
Do you think she likes me as more than a friend?
- Always on call
Dear Always on call,
There's a definite possibility that this girl does, in fact, like you more than a friend. Many times when you've been drinking, you feel like you can do anything and you lose your inhibitions. If this girl does like you, but doesn't want to tell you face to face for fear of rejection or whatever, this might be her way of telling you she's into you.
However, many people just randomly drunk dial because it's kind of fun - even better when you get the answering machine. Because then, your friends let you listen to the messages you left the night before.
It's really hard for me to give you a definite answer such as "Yes, she likes you, go for it," just because that might not be the case.
Girls are weird. They often mask their feelings and pretend everything is just peachy even though they have major inner turmoil. This girl could quite possibly really like you but she just doesn't know how to tell you. How do you act when she calls? Are you short with her and get off the phone as quickly as possible or do you drag the conversation on, waiting for her to reveal something in your conversation?
Another thing you need to think about is what you're feeling for her. You need to get your act together and if you like her, then ask her out. If you don't, and you don't like the drunken dialing, then just ask her to stop.
A good way to find out if she really is into you would be to just ask her next time she drunk dials you. Chances are she won't remember the next day and then you'll have your answer once and for all.
- Dr. Date
Dear Dr. Date,
I have a dilemma and could really use your help with this one.
The problem is my boyfriend, I'll call him "Peter". We started dating in high school and have continued our relationship during our freshman year here at the U. He is a good boyfriend except for a one reason.
The problem is the University's elaborate Rec Center. I know what you're thinking, the rec center is a great attribute to our campus and how could it ever ruin a relationship? I'll tell you, since he started going there, all he talks about is the "rec". He spends up to 40 hrs a week going there to play basketball, racquetball, volleyball and just to work out. I feel like he cares more about the rec than he cares about me. Sometimes he blows off our dates just to be with his beloved rec center.
I know this sounds like a small insignificant problem, but it gets worse. "Peter" has a good friend, I'll call him "Joshua". Lately I feel more and more compelled by him.
The thing is that "Joshua" hates the rec, he will have nothing to do with it. I feel like "Joshua" and I have so much in common (his dashing features don't help the situation either).
Should I leave my rec center obsessed man for his friend? Please help me, I'm so confused!
- I love V8
Dear I love V8,
I don't think you have feelings for this Joshua guy at all. I think you're just taking the one thing about your boyfriend that you don't like and finding some guy that doesn't have that quality.
Joshua is just a stand-in for the thing that's missing in your boyfriend. So I think it's in your best interest to stop thinking of Joshua as a guy you're going to drop your boyfriend for and hook up with.
Have you talked to your guy about his obsession with the recreation center? Have you asked him to please stop going there so often and to stop breaking your dates?
Whenever he goes, do you make a big stink about it or do you just say "Oh it's OK, we'll go to the movies another night"?
I find it kind of hard to believe that he's going and is completely oblivious to any signs of anger you have. I think you need to stand up for yourself and tell this guy to start spending more time with you.
What dates has he been skipping out on? Are they things he doesn't enjoy? When you're planning your dates, let him help as well. Don't make him go to a movie every weekend. Go to a hockey game. Switch it up a bit.
Basically you need to be more assertive in your relationship and let your guy know you're not happy.
- Dr. Date
Dear Dr. Date,
Am I an opinionated chauvinist pig, or simply the last sane man on the campus. I need your help. You see, I have this problem with Uggs, and that problem is, I hate them!
I go to Coffman, Uggs; I walk down Washington, Uggs. Everywhere I go, their ugliness burns into my retinas.
Would you just be kind enough to give me a glimpse into a woman's psyche and tell me why they wear something so tasteless?
- Puss in boots
Dear Puss in boots,
I, personally, cannot give you a glimpse into a woman's psyche of why Uggs are apparently so fantastic.
Quite frankly, I myself find them ugly. Maybe that's why they're called Uggs in the first place - because of their ugliness.
I'm not trying to tell anyone what to wear or what not to wear, but I would never wear those boots. That's just my opinion. I suppose the same could be said for people who choose to wear socks with their sandals in the summer. It's just a fashion statement. And people like to make statements.
So to all of those girls out there who enjoy keeping their feet warm from the cold snow, wear your Uggs. And for the guys who hate them, then don't date those girls. Find a gal in a nice pair of sneakers or boots that are not fashionable and take her out to lunch.
- Dr. Date
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