Not to toot my own horn, but I'm a pretty kickass girl. I'd like to think I do a decent job of balancing my girly side with my laid-back "one of the guys" side.
Problem is, when I get around someone I am actually interested in, I turn into a big weirdo. Either I try so hard to act cool and indifferent that he thinks just that- that I'm indifferent, or else I turn into a 3rd grader and can't even talk to him.
Obviously, it's pretty difficult to try to spark some interest when the guy doesn't even know you are into him. How can I let a guy know I like him without looking like a fool?
- Fortunate fool
Dear Fortunate fool,
You don't have to be completely obvious to him that you're interested. Just by flashing him a little smile or saying "Hi" you can easily get him to talk to you.
You don't have to tell a guy the first time you meet him that you're interested. Just start chatting with him. Find something the two of you have in common and start a conversation.
If you're really interested in a guy and you think you're going to get the elementary syndrome, then bring a friend along. Having someone around whom you know really well can sometimes alleviate the overwhelming shyness you get when you're around that person who makes butterflies twitter in your stomach.
But if you're into a guy and you don't think you'll ever have another opportunity to be with him, then ask him out. The best way to let a guy know you're interested is to be upfront with him and let him know.
Sometimes, guys can be quite dense and he'll never know you really like him unless you tell him.
- Dr. Date
Dear Dr. Date,
So just last summer I met a girl at a buddies wedding. The wedding was a few states away and we had a long distance relationship until she transferred here this semester.
Just before this transition I popped the big question and now we are to be married this summer. The thing is that ever since she moved here I'm actually getting to know her, we're starting to fight and bicker more and more. I'm starting to think that I don't like her the way I thought I did a couple months ago. What, if anything, can I do?
- Fat churguson
Dear Fat churguson,
You're obviously very serious about this girl because you're already engaged. So are you saying you don't want to be with her anymore?
I wouldn't just go and throw this relationship away. Have you tried discussing things with her? Have you sought outside help? If you're going to continue in this relationship and you're already having problems, I'd seek some sort of counseling sooner rather than later.
Postpone the wedding if you have to. It might be a lot of work, but don't you think it's worth it to try to make the relationship work before you find out after you're married that you're not a very good fit?
I really think you need to have a long talk with your wife-to-be. She needs to know that you're having these doubts. Make sure she understands where you're coming from. Don't just throw at her the fact that you're unhappy. Talk about what you're feeling and what steps you can take to remedy the relationship.
Tell her you want to seek counseling. Tell her you love her and you want to make things work.
If you're absolutely positive the relationship has no hope of being helped and you're sure there's nothing that would change your mind, then let her know now. Don't drag out a relationship that has no hope of survival. You'll only hurt her and yourself in the end.
- Dr. Date
Dear Dr. Date,
A girl I Know would like to date a close friend of mine. I think this is great, it's just that there's a potential problem. You see, this girl's ex-boyfriend has herpes and never told her, so she could have it also. I don't want my close friend to get hurt, and for this girl's benefit, I think she should know the truth. Is it my place to tell her? Her ex-boyfriend won't, so who should?
- STD squealer
Dear STD squealer,
Just because you don't think it's "your place" to tell her about your buddy having an STD, doesn't mean you shouldn't.
If your friend is going to be a jerk and not tell his ex that he has an STD, then please, take it upon yourself to tell her. STDs are serious business. If there's a chance that she might have one, then she needs to get checked.
So go and tell her today she should seek medical attention just in case.
- Dr. Date
And just because here are the top 10 reasons why Barry Tallackson is not the "lazy piece of crap" people think he is:
10) He doesn't listen to the critics.
9) He's on the Gophers hockey team and has won two national championships.
8) He uses words like "humdinger."
7) He's a pretty boy and a hockey player - how ironic.
6) He's not afraid to sport a botched dye job.
5) When you introduce yourself as his number one fan, he's super nice and gives you a drink (note: you can't introduce yourself as his number fan, he already has one).
4) He checks hard.
3) He's 6'4'' without his skates.
2) Long, flowing and blond.
1) He reads Dr. Date.
- Dr. Date
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