Dr. Date

Dateopia,
Remember that one time where you got super drunk and made out with this one person for a while?
Remember when you accidentally threw up on them because you chugged too much? Do you also remember when you went to class the next day and that person was your TA?
I bet you never thought that would pay off, but now there’s a chance it might! How would you like hot stone massages, dinner at the Nicollet Island Inn (a romantic spot indeed) and tickets to see a Brief Encounter on Valentine’s Day? All you have to do is go to www.mndaily.com/promotions and enter in the Dr. Date Night contest with your most embarrassing story. Check out the Web site for more details!
—DD

Dr Date,
I have been good friends with this guy since the beginning of last semester. We met at a party, actually hooked up a bit, but now we are just good friends.
We talk every day, meet up between classes and he invites me to parties. This past weekend, we went to a place to pre-game, and we got kinda tipsy, we kissed (his idea) and got pretty close. I do not have any type of feelings for this guy at all!
When we went to a party, I started making out with another guy, whom I ended up sleeping with later that night. A bit later he decided for all of us to leave, but I wanted to stay, which, I did. He got very mad at me, and we ended up having this huge fight in front of a lot of people there. We were mad at each other for a day or so, then we finally decided to forget what happened. Now we do not talk as much as we used to. I asked him why he got so mad at me and what that night was all about, and he made up the excuse, “It’s because I was drunk,” and when he is sober he doesn’t care about what happened.
I do not want to spoil a friendship like this; he has been a great friend to me. How should I act around him now?
—Awkward Turtle

Clueless Turtle,
Gee, I can’t think of any reason this guy is upset at you either. I mean, you two were at an orgy and you made out with another guy, I don’t see anything wrong with that. Wait, you were at a party and not an orgy — my mistake.
Sarcasm aside, I’m willing to bet the reason he got upset was that you kissed him and then hooked up with some other guy in the same night.
Usually people don’t like to kiss someone and then see them make out with another person in a short period of time. Although, I have been witness to three girls making out with one guy — all of whom saw each other making out with this guy. Alcohol doesn’t help anything, but it appears that this guy has feelings for you.
You might not have feelings for him, but by kissing him you showed interest. My advice would be to apologize to your friend and give him the dreaded friend talk.
—DD

Dr. Date,
I grew up in Los Angeles and moved here for school in September. Ao far I’m loving it, save for one thing.
I’m a black female and have dated black men all my life, mostly because that’s what I have always been surrounded by, plus the variety of black men kept me busy.
The prospect of dating white men never really presented itself, unless I actively searched for it. Obviously, things have changed. I love my black men but clearly they’re in the minority here. Now “fine” comes in all colors for me, but I am totally inexperienced on how to get things rolling when I want something to move past a friendship level.
The race thing always seems to get in the way. To top it all off, I’m not the most aggressive girl in the world and am not looking for a quick hookup (which of course would be easy).
Does my skin scare them off because they’re inexperienced too, or am I just looking for a rulebook for dating white men when it doesn’t exist?
—Something New

Something New,
I think a rulebook for dating men in general would be awesome, but it doesn’t exist.
Truth time: there will be guys out there who will openly reject you because of your skin, and there will also be guys out there who never thought of dating a black girl.
It sucks, but unfortunately it’s the way the world works. In reality, would you really want to date such a shallow person anyway? Luckily, there will also be plenty of guys who will be quite open to dating out of their own race. My advice for you is the same as always, really: get out there and do things you enjoy. Meet guys that you share interests with and who you can connect with. The rest will fall into place. Also, don’t think you have to date a white guy just because you’re in Minnesota. Despite being a minority, there are plenty of fine black men about.
—DD

Dr Date,
I have this problem. I am your average sexy white girl that is attracted to chocolate men. I have lived the whole college experience and I’m having LOTS of fun.
I am ready to settle down, and I’m having a hard time finding guys of my
type to settle down with. Why does it seem like every guy I try to make something with just sees me as a hookup?
I have asked friends for advice, but all they have for me is to change the type of guy I’m attracted to. I can’t do this, and I know there are some sexy chocolate men out there waiting for me, but where are they? I need my Prince Naveen!
—Chocolate Fun-Do

Fun-Do,
Based on the last letter, I guess you should move to Los Angeles! I’m kidding, Chicago is way nicer at this time of year — once again, I tease.
In honesty though, you find your guy through similar interests. If you’re having trouble finding your dark-chocolate man, you could try Kappa Alpha Psi — the predominantly black fraternity. Or you could involve yourself in groups that promote racial tolerance and equality. You get the idea.
Just make sure you end up with a guy you actually connect with and not some guy that fulfills your chocolate craving.
—DD