Dr. Date, My boyfriend and I met before summer and had all of summer’s free time to just have fun and hang out. Now that school has started and he has a million other things to do, I feel like I’m always the one that tries to see if we can hang out — which only happens once or twice a week for about an hour or so.
Dr. Date, This summer, I started dating a girl I worked with (yeah, great idea). I had never clicked so well with a girl before, both emotionally and physically. And three dates in, she invited me back to her place. I was extremely nervous. I didn’t have much of a mental intention of being in a situation like that with her — but every possible physical one.
Dr. Date, My girlfriend and I have been dating for a couple of years, but I’m not attracted to her — not like I once was. She is smart, kind and completely committed to our relationship. She has also overcome some tough troubles, and I admire her strength. We share some of the same nerdy interests, which is awesome. We have a lot of fun when we hang out, and she’s so supportive. We have a deep emotional connection.
Dr. Date, Over homecoming weekend, I hooked up with my friend who was visiting from home. (We never went further than third base.) It was pretty fun, and I have to admit that I was extremely drunk, but there is one problem with the situation: I have a girlfriend.
Dr. Date, This summer, I saw this girl for about three months, and it ended in early August. It’s been a little over two months now, and I’m still having trouble getting over her. This usually never happens. Usually after a relationship, when I date and hook up with a new girl (which I have done), I get over the ex-girlfriend immediately. It’s even worse because my friends and family were very happy for me to start a serious relationship.
Dr. Date, Never in my life have I been the type of guy to compete for a girl’s attention — not until this semester, anyway. My two roommates and I are all smitten with the same girl who lives in our apartment complex.
Dr. Date, My girlfriend is on the pill, and I wear a condom every time we get busy. Her roommates, friends and others we have talked to don’t use condoms. Neither of us have ever done it without a condom. All I hear about is “condoms aren’t needed if the girl is on the pill” and “it feels so good” and “condoms plus the pill equals too much.” We are both clean and OK with me not wearing one, but we have not done it.