Dear Dr. Date,
Do you feel that a person should be emotionally stable before considering a relationship? Some say a good significant other “brings out the best in you.” So, could that include helping a person going through a rough time? I met a girl who needs help that I can tell is special. I want to help her as more than a friend. Is that unhealthy?
Yeah, go ahead and get yourself messed up with somebody who’s already messed up. Then you two can go play in your mess and have sex in it and smear it all over each other’s naked, messed-up bodies. WHATEVER! See if I care. I don’t. I’m a doctor, living my own life, and honestly, in spite of my profession, I never try to fix people. You can’t do it.
Listen, Better Half. There’s something you should know about people who are emotionally unstable. Being in a relationship only makes things more complicated for them. As much as you think you’re a wonderful, nice, smart, helpful person, you can’t fix somebody who’s broken. That’s what psychologists and epiphanies are for.
Go for it if you get off on unpredictability. But don’t go for it if you think you’re going to change this person. Not even docs like me can pull off that feat.
I’ve started seeing a nice guy who treats me better than any other guy has in the past. He takes me on dates, makes reservations for dinner, pays, all that.
Thing is, I’m not super attracted to him. Things are just getting started, and he is so nice that I’m wondering whether I should keep trying him out (I’ve heard my friends say they weren’t attracted to their boyfriends/girlfriends at first; it developed) and see how things go, or cut it off ASAP so it doesn’t seem like I’m just leading him on?
What’s the point of being with somebody you’re not attracted to, you ask? There actually are a few benefits to this heartless practice. They’re numerous, and they include oral and anal. Was that too blunt? The Doc’s in a mood. The Doc is sorry.
It’s just that the Doc is not in the mood for punning it up right now because there’s something seriously disgusting about this question that’s been on my mind for a while.
A lot of college relationships suck because they’re all about being scared of love or about imitating love with pseudo-love. Unless you’re totally unfortunate looking, I bet someday you’ll find someone who makes you feel the real thing, the good thing, the thing I felt with my first love — unbridled, naive dedication. David Bowie sings, “Love clears the mind and makes you free.” Love is simple. Real love is easy. It’s these relationships that border on it, that hinge on sexuality and talking games and hiding things — these are the relationships that cloud the mind and tie you down. There’s no time to waste time with that pseudo-love horse waste.
So go ahead and keep dating this guy if he gives great head and you enjoy hitting up the Main for some flicks with him. But if you’re just standing around like a dumbass waiting to fall in love, you’re a dumbass. Go learn another language or something. Maybe you’ve got love waiting for you elsewhere.