Dear Dr. Date,
I’ve been into this girl I know for a few months, but I’ve been too scared to truly ask her out. She’s said we should “chill” a few times and I’ll say yes, but then she’ll ghost me until weeks later. I’m still not sure if she’s interested in me and don’t want to get rejected, so I’ve been waiting for her to text first.
Until this week, when I drunkenly texted her asking her to go get a drink with me. It’s probably the most direct I’ve ever been, and she responded within 15 minutes (on a Friday night at midnight), so I was really hopeful! We texted back and forth for a little bit and she seemed enthusiastic about finding a time to meet, until I got this text:
“Yeah, check out my Google Calendar and pick a time!”
Dr. Date, OOF. I thought I was always pretty direct in asking her to hang out, and I don’t know if I’m getting curved or if she’s truly oblivious about my interest in her. Our interactions have been a little flirty and I know she’s single — I’m so lost. Should I doom myself to selecting a time to probably discuss homework or pretend I didn’t read her text?
Taking the L
Dear Taking the L,
Yeah, oof. I don’t know enough about your relationship to say if she’s oblivious or rejecting you, but I know an easy way to find out — ask her. Text her saying “just to be clear, I mean going out for drinks like a date,” and see what she says. She truly may just be super busy and would rather you pick a time (Google Calendar is amazing) without realizing how it sounds. And if she does just mean as friends, at least now you know and don’t have to keep get ghosted.