Dear Dr. Date,
I recently started dating a guy I met on Tinder. In his Tinder profile, he said “let’s go to the movies and chill,” so I thought he might actually want to go see a movie instead of “watch Netflix." I’m a huge film nerd and love seeing anything and everything, especially with someone by my side. On our first date, he took me to a movie I had already seen, so I didn’t mind when we got a little busy in the back of the theater.
Since then, we’ve gone out a few more times before ending up at his place to watch movies. But now, he thinks I don’t actually want to see the film! We’ve ended up making out on the couch while I crane my head to see what I’m missing, and he still hasn’t noticed. I’ve had to rewatch Ex Machina three times just to find out what actually happened!
He seems great, and I don’t want it to seem like I don’t want to move to the bedroom after the movie. How do I let him know I actually want to Netflix THEN chill?
Hulu and Relax
Dear Hulu and Relax,
Ahh, the downside of inviting a date over to watch TV. If you really don’t want to confront him, you can always suggest movies you’ve already seen so you’re not missing much. This has the added bonus of making you sound really smart when you discuss what you think happened, even if your ideas really came from articles and film forums.
However, if you think it might turn into a relationship, talk to him before you head over to his place. Tell him as much as you enjoy spending time in other rooms of the house, you’d rather the couch stay a makeout-free zone. It’s not anything against him — it’s because you love movies, so he should understand. Who knows, you might convert him to your side and have a theater partner for life. Just make sure you’re firm on this rule for a while — cuddling together on a couch is seriously underrated, so focus on that instead!